Remembering Jason

I hope everyone will take some time to add a thought or message to Jason's family or even leave something that went unsaid to Jason that you wish you could have said. I hope this to be a great support site for family and friends who will always remember what a great guy Jason is.
I know there are many people who took pictures and video at the services. Feel free to send copies or links to me at

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Stay up to date on gatherings and celebrations for Jason Tolman

Open new text message. In the number field put 90210. In the message body you type in JAT
Then all you do is hit send. You will now be a part of his mobile club and get updates on your phone regarding news for Remembering Jason. Thanks everyone!

Cameron Tolman

Thursday, January 28, 2010

Hey J been thinking about you and missing you. Hard times but I know you are there comforting her. Love you bro! Talk to you soon. Think about you every day.

Thursday, December 24, 2009

Kids pics

I know several people have been wondering how we are getting along. Well, I find having 4 kids to myself a wonderful and crazy experience. They are getting so big. Karsen is a social butterfly. Morgan looks/acts so much like J. Harley is a true red head in every way. Olivia Jace is a joy, such an amazing baby. She has his beautiful blue eyes.

Memorial/Party for Jason

Having a Party/Memorial for Jason on January 2nd @6:30, Mi Amigos, Power and Southern

Contact me if you need to (480) 466-1005.

Saturday, November 21, 2009

tough times

Hey bro love you and thinking about you. Morgan's doing awesome at T-Ball. Sure miss you man. Take care, talk to you soon.


Thursday, September 24, 2009

Sunny days

Hey bro I am thinking about you. I was thinking about some of the old days when we went shooting out in Queen Valley. Some good times. Well I love you and talk to you later in the week.


Sunday, September 13, 2009

Miss you man!

Hey Jason I just wanted to stop in and say "what's up?" My boys are getting big now and there energy reminds me of how much they loved going riding with you and the rest of the family when we came out in December 2007. I think back to all the times you helped me keep my truck running and came by to pick up Karsen in the afternoons when Kelly was working. You were always so great to her! You're awesome! Anyway, I hope to get back there for your birthday coming up in a few months. See you then.


Saturday, August 22, 2009

Jason's Grave

It has a head stone and cup in place for flowers now. If anyone doesnt remember how to get there email me or stop in the office at the cemetary.


I miss you every day man. Just want you to know I love you.


Saturday, July 18, 2009

Tick Tock, Tick Tock

Whats up bro?! Hey you made a beautiful baby that was born a couple days ago...but you already know that cause you were with her as she left Heaven to join us here. :-)
Sorry I haven't been able to come visit a whole lot the past couple weeks, but I will being seeing you tomorrow! I am always thinking about you and the memories that we created. I am so grateful to have a brother like you. I want you to know I miss you and talk to you later.


Cam T

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Thinking about you!

Hey Jason just listening to some of your old CD's and songs online that we used to listen to and want you to know I'm thinking of you. Got a few from way back in the day Jr High and High School style. :)...I love you man, I will be over on Sunday to see you again! Hope your taking it easy up there bro..

your younger bro

Thursday, May 21, 2009


Hey bro,

Just had a few moments to stop and let you know how much I love you!!...and how much I miss you!!! I try to visit with you atleast 3 times a week. Not a day, minute or second passes by where I am not thinking about you and your family. It shouldnt have been this way and I wont ever understand it... I love you bro! Talk with you soon...



Thursday, April 9, 2009

Coroner's Report is Back

Kelly called today to let me know that she got the coroner's report from the autopsy. Jason passed of natural causes of which he had Hypertropic Cardiomyopathy. It is a thickening of the heart muscle to the point where blood is not pumped efficiently or at all. It can be genetic and it has symptoms like asthma. For more information you can go to it is an organization dedicated to the disease. You can go here for some fact sheets if you don't want to surf the web.
I am considering starting a nonprofit in Jason's name to raise money for continued research against the disease. I was thinking we could hold some sort of annual sand dunes rally or something. Let me know if anyone else is interested or has an idea.

We continue to appreciate your love and support and I know Kelly does too.

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Still Hurts

I just wanted to let all of you know, if you are wondering how others are feeling now that it has been a couple of months, it still hurts. I had to come in for a rare Saturday appointment to meet with a client and decided to come a little early. I heard one of the songs on Jason's video and I couldn't stop thinking about how much I still miss him.

It must be a little different for me being so far from family who gets to see each other on occasion and can lean on each other a bit. I feel pretty alone way out here. What makes it better though is seeing his pictures again and knowing that he is as happy as can be right now. I know he is cheering for Haley to get here and stays as close to his family as he can. I am considering doing another video or rearranging some of the pictures and music. Let me know if any of you have some thoughts for music or have additional pictures to include.
Jason - I miss you bro. I know your there and like the song from the video says, "were closer than we were before." I'm just sorry that you had to leave to get me to understand what you meant to me. I promise to try harder to keep in touch with everyone else. Thanks for being a great brother and an excellent friend to so many people. You won't be soon forgotten. I'll do my best to help take care of Kelly and the kids. There part of my family too.
You've got to be pretty stoked about having a baby girl. I wonder about all of the stuff you are up there teaching her about before she comes down here. Man that would be way cool to have your dad to hang out with all by yourself before you come down to this earth. She is one lucky girl to have you. Be sure to tell her how awesome her Uncle Mark is and that he should be her favorite. Just kidding. Until I visit again...Love you man!

Sunday, March 8, 2009


Our fourth baby is going to arrive sometime in July!! She will be a very welcome addition. I think I will name her "Haylee Jase". Jason picked out Haylee right after we got pregnant. Probably call her Jase because Harley and Haylee will be confusing. This is not a definete name yet though...

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Benefit Yard Sale for Jason's Family

Benefit Yard Sale -
All proceeds to benefit the family of Jason Tolman
Benefit Yard Sale Saturday, January 31st from 7 AM to 3 PM at the Nielsen home. 1718 S. Los Alamos, Mesa.
Click here for the complete story.

Sunday, January 18, 2009

My Brother

It is still a shock to me that Jason is gone and I keep thinking in some way that he will walk back through the door.

I remember Jason for the hardworking loving brother and father that he was to his family. He never really had a bad word to say about any of them. He did get frustrated with some members of the family as we all do from time. He was always willing to help any of them if they asked and sometimes when they didn't, even if he felt like they had wronged him. It takes a big person to put your feelings aside and help when they have wronged you. Jason is a bigger man that I am.

I know that he was so proud of his family, because he was always talking about them and when they came to the office to see him he was always happier after. I remember when Harley was born and they thought that she wasn't going to able to hear and how frustrated he was that there was nothing he could do. In the end things worked out fine.

Kelly, keep that worry list up to date because I will be coming by from time to time to pick it up.

Dedicatory Pray of Grave Site

Dedicatory Pray of Grave Site for Jason Tolman
January 10th 2009
Matt Tolman

Our Father in Heaven we come here this day and by the power of Holy Melkezidek, priesthood which I hold, I dedicate this grave for the resting place of Jason Aaron Tolman until the morning of the resurrection.

Father, we ask thee to bless his family, his kids; that they will remember their father and husband. For the example he was and that they will be able to lives similar to his.

We are grateful for the gospel, for the blessings it brings to us. We are grateful for the resurrection.

Bless Kelly as she goes forward that she will receive the inspiration and guidance that she needs in raising her family. We bless his kids that they will grow to be strong, good kids, that they will listen to their mother.

We bless his parents, that they will be comforted, his brothers and sisters and the extended family. Father we pray that Kelly may have no worries. That she knows things will be taken care of. Let her rest in peace, as well as the kids in these coming weeks.

Father, we know that Jason has gone to a better place, where he has no pains and worries.
Help us to feel this way also at this time.

We say these things in the name of Jesus Christ Amen.

Saturday, January 17, 2009

From Friends

I am not sure which Tolman is recieving these messages but I just learned of Jason's passing from Cameron. I just want to let the whole Tolman-Wheeler's know that my love and prayers are with them at this time, Jason was and continues to be an amazing man and was very loved by me. I also have some photo's of Jason from around 1995 to 2000 that I could scan in and send to Kelly.


Lindsay Brand-Simmons


Kelly, I had been thinking about you this week before I ever even heard anything. (it's park weather, again-)I know that nothing that I say will help... but please know that you & your family are in my constant thoughts and prayers. I am home in the day on Friday if you need someone to watch your kids. Just e-mail me: am so sorry for your loss.Let me know if I can help in ANY way!


Jason was my friend in Jr. High and High School and I am so sorry to hear about this tragedy. he was a great man and looked like a wonderful father. He will be greatly missed and I will keep your family in our prayers.brooke(bringhurst) whiting

I never knew Jason or his family. I read about this story online. I have watched the video three times now, crying every time. My heartfelt wishes and prayers to Jason's family and friends. He was obviously from a great family who loves him very much! -Anonymous

That is one of the most beautiful videos of Jason's life I have ever seen. My prayers go to you and your family. -Laura
When I heard the news I was speechless... I am so sorry for your loss... I will for sure keep you all in my prayers... -Natalie and Jeremy Belknap

Thank you for taking such good care of my best friend and your little blessings. You will be missed so much. -Anonymous
We all will miss Jason very much. He was a strong willed boy and loved everyone. We all love hime and will miss him very much. Uncle Doug
I am so sorry for youy loss. I will remember you and your family in my prayers -Becky
Dear Jason,
I wanted to tell you that you are such an amazing person and will always be in my heart. I have known you for such a long time and we have had some good family times together. We will all help your family out as much as they need. I love you Jason and i will see you again. You will always be in our prayers and your family too.
Kristina Beckham McCray
I am so sorry for what you must be going through. This is very sad to hear. I hope your baby continues to grow strong and you and your family are continually watched over. We will pray for you. Families are Forever. Love you! -Cassie
hi mrs. kelly,
you may not know me but i am one of kristins friends, mr. jasons neice. she told me about what happpened and im very truely sorry about what happened. mr. jason will always be in my prayers and heart... i dont think you need to worry about where he is because i know he is somewhere special...i heard he was a good guy!
with all love and respect,
Aminah Yossef
My prayers are with your family at this time. -jewly
You may not know me but my brother knew Jason and I was friends with Cameron all through high school. I am so sorry to all your family for your loss. I don't know all of you but I know how much Cameron loves his brother. I am sorry Cam and to all of you. You and your family are in our prayers.
Rooney Family
I would like to give my deepest sympathy to Jasons wife, children and family. I never really knew Jason, only met him once through my husband Gus, who used to work with him. My heart goes out to all that knew him. I had lots of tears reading all the good heartfelt stories that others have left. May God bless his family with what ever they may need. Sheila

Thursday, January 15, 2009


I just wanted to write a quick note here to all of our friends and family.
I am truly grateful for huge amount of prayers, thoughts, phone calls, money, food and work that has been given so freely to my family. I know that Jason is just as grateful as I am. It is such a blessing to Jason, myself and our children to have the knowledge of being together again for all eternity. This truly is what is helping mw through this time.
I know my house has never been cleaner or the frigde fuller throughout our marriage.
Thank you all so much, Kelly, Karsen, Morgan and Harley

Monday, January 12, 2009

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Video Slideshow of Jason

From Misty Selvidge

Jason and Kelly we love you! I am Mike's sister, cousin of Jason. I remember Jason and how cute he was as a kid and always had a caring heart. As an adult all the kids loved playing with Jason! Kara and I would always watch out for all our brothers and we love them dearly!! I send my deepest sympathy to Kelly and her kids and all the Tolmans. I am glad I got to spend this week with all of you. It was fun and healing to get together and hear stories of Jason. His viewing and funeral was so nice! I'm sure Jason was there with us all and was very pleased! Kelly-I was a single Mom for a couple of years and yes it will be busy and hard but if you stay close to the Lord he will carry you! The Lord has a soft spot in his heart for single Mom's! I can't wait to go through the temple with you and see you and Jason sealed with all your children. I know he is up in heaven with your unborn child right now telling him/her to watch out for you! I am here for you!Eric, Cami, Cassie, Carli, and I love you all so much. All the Tolmans are like my bros and sister since my siblings are in UT, and VA. May all our memories of Jason comfort us and heal us through this emotional time in our lives. Love always, Misty Selvidge(Chappell)

The Funeral

The funeral was very nice. When I get the program scanned I will post it here. Jason's sister and sister in law sang a song written just for him. Jason was moved to the Mesa Cemetery and there his brothers took his casket and put it in the back of his truck he so loved. They rode in the back and drove slowly to his final resting place. There a dedicatory prayer was said by his oldest brother. Hundreds of people came to show their support for Jason and his family. His family appreciates the outpouring and expresses their thanks to all of those who assisted in the past 10 days.

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Jason's Obituary

Jason Aaron Tolman, passed away suddenly in his sleep January 2nd, 2009 at the Glamis Sand Dunes. He was born January 2, 1982 in Mesa, Arizona. He was a kind, loving husband, father, uncle and friend. He loved the outdoors and especially loved riding his sand rail. He was preceded in death by his grandparents Veldon and Reva Naylor. He is survived by his wife Kelly M.; children Karsen Romo, Morgan and Harley; siblings Matt (Brenda), Mark (Juliet), Kara Sanders, Jeremy (Caterina), Ben (Michelle) and Cameron, parents; Rod Tolman (Kathy) and Pauline Wheeler (John); grandparents Almo and Ruth Tolman, 21 nieces and nephews and a large extended family. Visitation will be Friday, January 9, 2009 from 6-8 PM at Bunker's University Chapel, 3529 E. University Dr. in Mesa. Funeral Services will be Saturday, January 10, 2009 at 10:00 AM with visitation at 9:00 AM at the LDS chapel at 1438 N. Driftwood Dr. in Gilbert. Interment will be at the City of Mesa Cemetery. In lieu of flowers donations can be made to the Jason Tolman Family Memorial Fund at Bank of America.

Friday, January 9, 2009

The Viewing

It was wonderful to see how many people came to the viewing. Our count makes it at least a couple hundred. Thank you again for all your support for the family.

Yes many tears were shed but also much happiness was shared in the reuniting of family and friends who have spent too long of time apart. There were pictures displayed and the video was redone and more was added. In honor of Jason who always wore a hat on backwards, his brothers all wore hats at the viewing on backwards. It was a neat showing of support and a good way to remember Jason.

As a special showing of support Jason's Granparents who are in their nineties came. We love them dearly.

Once again, Thanks.

From Mike

Kelly, my name is Mike Chappell and I wanted to pass on my deepest sympathy for your loss. I knew Jason very well during the first half of his life and miss him very much. I used to run around the streets of Mesa with Jeremy, Ben, Jason, and Cameron. My two brothers, Tim and Chris, and the Tolman boys definitely left our mark on the Southern and Val Vista area. Most of my childhood memories were with this group of little rascals. Jeremy and Tim were always the older ones with the girls as friends and Cameron and Chris were the little guys running around doing our biddings. Ha! =) We definitely got into our fair share of mischief. I think we were all such good friends back then because of the bond between two sisters – Paula and my mom, Kathe. It is really quite amazing to look at these two women and look at all the things they have been through together… everything from marriage, children, mother’s death, dual family vacations, divorce, a burned house, brother’s death, moving huge distances, father’s death, and now a son’s & nephew’s death. I think I am telling you this because there is great value in the example of these two women--the bond of two sisters that does not break. Other than that I just wanted to say that there are generations of family and history you have joined through meeting and loving Jason. And there will be generations of family and legacy that yours and Jason’s kids will build. Family is Forever.
My love,

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

The Schedule - From Kelly, Jason's Wife

The Schedule:

Friday Evening: Viewing 6-8pm at the Bunker University Chapel (Val Vista and University)
Saturday: Viewing 9-9:45am Church building
Family Prayer 9:45am Church building
Funeral 10am church building
Graveside Approx. 11:45am Cemetery Center N of Brown

Donations: Bank of America ask for the Jason Tolman Family Memorial Fund (not available till Thursday 1-8-09)
Church Building is on Driftwood and South of Baseline, in between Lindsay and Val Vista

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

I remember when...

Like so many others I talked about you with my family and here are some of the things that they came up with that they remember about you. They remembered you holding them in your lap as you let them "drive" your rock crawler while camping at Kinder Springs. They remembered you and your other brother's taking them to ride quads and Rhino's and motorcycles in the desert for new years two years ago. I have a video of it if anyone wants it. Juliet remembers how you would come over to pick up Karsen everyday when we were watching her. You never complained at least to us, and you were always excited to see her, even though sometimes it meant changing out car seats from the Jeep. You are a great dad to her.

Even now Jason, I remember pushing you on a big wheel when we lived on Garnet in Tierra Rica. I must have been babysitting and you were probably only 2 or 3. Even then you loved the "bikes."

Most of all Jason I remember my last extended time with you was hiking to Reavis Ranch the October before we came out to St. Louis. We had never done anything like that before so it seems unusual to look back at it. I remember how you made it back to the car almost a half hour before everyone else, except maybe Jeremy. I remember you and my other brothers laughing at me because I packed a 13 pound queen size air mattress 9 miles into the campsite. It seems pretty funny and it was, considering I was already 40 pounds overweight.

Jason I remember how you always helped me fix my truck and car because I had no money and you never complained. When I couldn't get the airconditioner to work you showed up with the tools and the know how. I remember being jealous that at 16 you had your own super cool 4 wheel drive Blazer and I was still stuck in a crappy old Chevy Corsica. I remember wishing I had the guts you did go 4 wheeling in places I wouldn't try to climb. Again I remember being jealous that you could play the guitar in what seemed like without even trying because I spent 2 years in lessons and couldn't play anything.

Thanks so much Jason for showing me how important it is to take time to enjoy life. I always seem to find reasons why I couldn't take time to go riding, to the dunes or camping. Your life reminded me that not everything in this life is about work and that I too should enjoy it. Thanks for being a great brother, friend and example. You were a model of selflessness and I'll never forget you.

Love, Mark